Dear Mother,
STOP TELLING ME "DON'T DO IT" OR "DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT" WHEN IT COMES TO STUFF WITH OUR FAMILY. Believe it or not, I actually do care about what happens with our family and would like to support them as much as possible. If it means taking time out of my schedule to come see someone or go somewhere, I'd gladly do it because family is important to me. You telling me don't come, don't do this, don't do that, just makes me angry. If I did everything you told me to do, I'd never come home, never call, never visit, and never bother to do one kind thing to make people remember that they are related to me and that I care for them. I'M NOT YOU. I am not a cold fish when it comes to communicating with others or building relationships. I know when something is important to someone else, and then I make sure to treat it as important. I don't just dismiss it and go about my own business, like you. You really are cold and heartless. It's not just the fact that you are Japanese, it's that you really don't give a shit about what anyone else might think or feel. Good one.
Now, that being said, if I choose to come home for only two days or something for Grandma's funeral (if I can), don't tell me I shouldn't come. I know you hated her too, but that's not a good enough reason to keep me away. You know your husband is in pain? Suffering emotionally? Stop telling him to suck it up and that the world is a better place now that his mother is dead. Sure, you probably haven't told him that in so many words, but I know how you are. Yes, she was a horrible mother and person, but it's the only mother he knew. Even if she sucked worse than garbage, he still sees her as the woman who "raised" him (though she put him in the orphanage when he was 9 months old so she could marry a child-hating man). Give it a rest and support him. Granted, he didn't support you when your dad died, but don't be revengeful.
I might see you in a few days. We'll see. Just don't cause too much grief before I see you.
Me
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